Get the self-confidence killers out of your head
They are quieter, inconspicuous, and yet they pull the strings and influence our communication, demeanor, and self-love.
Some are born with it, others have to fight for it. If you are one of those people whose healthy self-confidence has not been put on hold, definitely do not panic.
With a little patience and effort, a healthy self-confidence can be built up by a person who has spent the last few years constantly underestimating himself, comparing himself with others, and above all, not believing himself.
All you need to do is drive the self-confident killers out of your head, constantly whispering to you that you are not smart, thin, interesting, or clever enough.
And what will really help you on your way to healthy self-confidence?
Forget the general agreement
Confident people don't need their surroundings to agree with them. They have such high self-confidence that they stand behind their actions and words even when others shake their heads in disbelief. And you know what? They don't mind at all that their surroundings do not agree with them!
Work to express your opinion even when your loved ones, friends, or colleagues will not like it.
Don’t just act in such a way that the surroundings are satisfied.
Act in such a way that you are satisfied with yourself.
At the same time, it pays to focus on building quality relationships with the people you respect as well as you. Don't let the opinions of false friends define who you are or what you can and can't do in life. It's not easy to say goodbye to toxic friends, but it's essential to healthy self-esteem.
Don't give up
From an early age, we have known that life is full of obstacles that we must overcome. Sometimes it's easy, other times we stop just in front of an obstacle and start researching if it's really worth overcoming it.
If you want to build healthy self-confidence, then it is important to work on personal growth and not be intimidated by any life challenges. It doesn't matter if it is a new job or you find out that there is a third person in your relationship.
Don't take or make hasty decisions that you might regret in the future.
Focus on how to overcome the obstacle or stand it.
Captivated by the past
What happened, happened!
What happened, happened! Repeat every time you start thinking about something that has happened in the past.
There's no point in wasting valuable time on scenarios you can't change anymore.
Do not undermine your confidence by what you should or should not have done and said.
Accept the event, learn from the mistakes and let it float. It's also good to stop counting the moments when you failed in any way.
Remember that we all fail and failure does not make us less intelligent or inferior.
Kind words
Are you one of those people who carries a cake on the table and announces in advance that it has crashed a bit today?
When submitting a work assignment, do you indicate that you will process it better next time?
And can you throw butter on your head even when it's not needed at all? You seem to be undermining your feet.
On the way to a healthy self-confidence, it is essential that you overwhelm yourself with kind and kind words.
Talk about yourself nicely, brag, and above all, don't evaluate your performance until someone impartial evaluates it.
Dangerous ingratitude
The art of gratitude is really important because it allows you to focus on what you have instead of what you don't have.
Gratitude will give you the confidence you need, and at the same time you will learn to pay attention to details that you would normally overlook.
If you know that you are struggling with gratitude, try to set up a gratitude diary and write three things in it every day that you are currently grateful for.
No matter how good you are, someone will always do better.
No matter how bad you are, someone will always be worse off.
Conclusion
It is essential that you overwhelm yourself with kind and kind words.
Do not undermine your confidence by what you should or should not have done and said.
Remember that we all fail and failure does not make us less intelligent or inferior.